Daily Awkward People Problems

Life is a challenge for everyone, but as an awkward person, I have a whole different set of issues I face every day. Now, not every awkward person is the same so if you finish reading this and you think “I’m awkward but I have never been through any of this”…. Then know that this is the first of the awkward things I go through on a regular basis. Telling people things I think everyone experiences only to discover that it’s not normal. I’ll give you an example;  when I meet someone for the first time, they don’t necessarily strike me as drop dead gorgeous or anything but once I get to know them and we become friends, suddenly they become so beautiful. Basically the longer I know the person, the more beautiful they get. See, I thought this was normal for everybody but when I told my friends about it, they all thought I’m a total lunatic. That was not even the point of our conversation, I just mentioned it as a by the way, a we-all-go-through-that kind of thing but they had no clue what I was talking about. It was really awkward.

Another awkward thing is walking, yes you read that right, WALKING. I mean I’ve been walking for 20 years, it’s only the natural way for humans to get from one place to another. You’d think I’d have mastered how to walk by now! I don’t know what it is, when I’m in public, I just become so conscious of the way I walk. My thought process when I walk in public usually goes a little like this; Keep you’re back straight, okay not that straight, you don’t want to look like a robot. Look straight ahead, don’t look at anyone. Okay maybe that looks arrogant, make eye contact with everyone and maybe even smile. Well don’t smile like that! Oh my… too late that last person totally thought you are on crack or something. Fine no smiling, just focus on you’re legs. One leg at a time come on, right leg, left leg, right leg… Don’t fall, don’t fall! It goes on.  Deciding where to put my arms when walking is the most difficult thing! Swing your arms that’s the normal thing to do. Okay, too much swinging, maybe keep them straight. Now you look so stiff!… I usually end up carrying a bag even when I don’t need one just so I can hold the straps and not have to deal with that.

Don’t even get me started on small talk! I’m pretty sure I’ve broken some sort of record on horrible small talk. I have a script that I use on literally everyone and it usually begins with talk of the weather, yeah, it’s that bad. The crazy thing is I am the one that usually initiates the conversation but I do it in a way that the other person isn’t left with much room for responding. We then fall into the most awkward silences. It’s like I never learn my lesson. I don’t know what’s wrong with me it’s almost like I crave the awkwardness. There’s this one time I went over to a friends house for dinner and five of her friends who I had never met were there. I was trying so hard to join the small talk but it’s almost like everything I said ended the conversation. Every time I opened my mouth, people fell into an awkward silence lol. My friend noticed and she took me to her room to hang out away from the rest of the girls, true story.

All I have mentioned so far is pretty awkward but this next thing is by far the most awkward thing ever! Whether to say hello when you see someone you know. I know what you’re thinking ‘what is wrong with this girl’. The thing is, if I get along really well with someone and I like them, it’s pretty straightforward, I say hi if I see them around. What about the people you don’t really know but you know? Say you see them around at school, you’ve worked together on a class assignment or you were introduced to them briefly by a friend recently. If you see this person in a mall or something, what is the right thing to do? Honestly I really struggle with this, because I’m thinking, hey, I know this person, I should go say hi but what if they don’t recognize me or they think I’m weird or something. Also another thing, do I have say hello every single time I see them? Is that the polite thing to do or is it a bit creepy? I usually end up avoiding eye contact and maybe even walking in the opposite direction because I have no idea what to do!

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That’s all I can think of right now but feel free to add to my list if you know the struggle. If you read this far, you’re awesome. Thank you for reading! 🙂

Just as a side note I’m thinking of a unique way to end my blogs, any ideas are appreciated. 🙂

 

 

 

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25 comments

  1. Gemma · July 26, 2016

    This post is hilarious! And strangely relatable! That last one is something I absolutely do – glad to hear I’m not the only one!! Great blog!! Hope you can check out/follow my blog https://myhappycornerblog.wordpress.com

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    • Apparentlyintrovert · July 26, 2016

      Thanks 🙂
      Checked out your blog too
      I like your graduation post. Congratulations! I’m about to start second year uni and I can’t wait for that day!!

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      • Gemma · July 26, 2016

        Thank you! Ah enjoy your time there, it’ll go so quickly!!

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  2. keleighlou92 · July 26, 2016

    This made me laugh reading through! Daily girl struggles!! 😂 I can’t definitely relate to the hello thing if you know someone but you don’t know the know them!

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  3. keleighlou92 · July 26, 2016

    Reblogged this on mumonamissionsite and commented:
    So I came across this post today and ended up really laughing to myself reading the end bit about saying hello to someone that you know but don’t properly know! This happens to me all the time😂 And when I read read it to my other half Luke I was really laughing!! Oh the every day struggles of being a girl hey! Boys hardly ever recognise anyone and when they do its just a “alright”! Why is it us girls get so flustered and then feel the need to strike up an in depth conversation?! Maybe we should all stick to a “alright”!!

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  4. TheLivingMe · July 26, 2016

    Hejeheheehehehe very very relatable, especially the ending the conversation. When you try to make a joke but no one notices…….. awkward 😁😁😁

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    • Apparentlyintrovert · July 28, 2016

      You know, I was worried this post would be completely unrelatable and it would be one big awkward moment lol. That’s how often that kind of thing happens to me!
      Thanks 🙂

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      • TheLivingMe · July 29, 2016

        Hehehehe don’t worry you are definitely not alone. Awkwardness is human nature 😁😁

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  5. Natalie · July 26, 2016

    HA! Love this, and love your sense of humor 🙂

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  6. theintrovertmomblog · July 27, 2016

    I can relate to all of this! The more I get to know someone, the more beautiful they become. I tell my husband all the time that he gets more and more handsome everyday. Lol. The whole thing about walking in public, I had such a problem with when I was a little younger. I think that gets better with time… Either that or you have kids and that’s all you end up worrying about! Haha. The small talk was so terribly brutal for me. I recommend the book- “The Art of Small Talk” by Debra Fine. This book has really helped me. One thing I try to remember in this book is, just showing a common interest in a person makes you likable. People really appreciate this. Ask questions to get to know them better. And even at first when it still seems awkward, as long as you are nice, people are really receptive and really appreciate the effort. I’m still working on this. But it has gotten easier.
    The saying hello to people you know but don’t know well enough… Sometimes just a casual wave from a distance with a smile will do. If they don’t see you… Oh well. Lol. Good luck fellow introvert!

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    • Apparentlyintrovert · July 27, 2016

      I’m so glad you get the becoming more beautiful thing! I honestly thought I was crazy or something. Does walking really get better with time? That sounds promising 🙂 thank you for tips, I need all the help I can get! Definitely going to put what you’ve said into practice. Thanks again fellow introvert! ❤

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      • theintrovertmomblog · July 28, 2016

        I do believe the walking thing gets better. I reached a point where I didn’t really care what I looked like in public lol. I think you will get there too.

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  7. Hattie B · July 27, 2016

    I enjoyed this! Yep, I’ve been there…life is a minefield.I feel like I’ve become more relaxed over time. After 5 years at work, I’ve learnt to throw out ‘Alright?’ or ‘Hey..’ left, right and centre – and if they don’t respond or ignore you, don’t take it personally! Sometimes people are just preoccupied. Still conscious of the way I walk though 🙂
    H x

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    • Apparentlyintrovert · July 28, 2016

      Glad to hear this all fades with time! Can’t wait to reach the point when I just do not care at all about what people think, they probably don’t even see me. It’s all in my head. Glad you enjoyed it, thank you for reading
      X

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  8. OrganicIsBeautiful · August 11, 2016

    This post is simply awesome! I enjoyed every bit of it 😉

    Sabrina 🎀 – http://www.OrganicIsBeautiful.com

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  9. explorelaughdream · August 29, 2016

    This is so relatable! I can be super awkward at times and I’m terrible at small talk. Always have been, probably always will be. Another instance where I’m awkward is talking on the phone. I HATE talking on the phone. I rehearse everything I say before I pick up the phone, then when I’m on the phone I forget it all. I never know how to end a conversation and I end up repeating myself numerous times. I’m terrible! haha

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  10. betheeverythinggirl · October 16, 2016

    The small talk conversation is hilarious, I am so bad at small talk because sometimes I can be super shy. I usually end up saying things that I would never say in normal conversations. Embrace it! Your quirks are the only thing you own in this world, and it makes you completely original!

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  11. ibomboi · October 31

    So as a guy i have never really bothered about the girls, i guess that’s why i am single. What i love about your writing anyway is the fact that you bring the very regular experiences that we all relate to, no matter who you are yea.

    We have something in common, yea i said it, something.

    https://ibomboi.wordpress.com/2016/10/31/sunday-series-2/

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    • Apparentlyintrovert · October 31

      Thank you, I did not realize everyone experiences these things until I posted it. It just goes to show we are all the same! That kind of makes me feel better lol.
      And don’t worry about the girls thing, the right lady will come at the right time 🙂

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  12. Azalea · January 5

    “when I meet someone for the first time, they don’t necessarily strike me as drop dead gorgeous or anything but once I get to know them and we become friends, suddenly they become so beautiful. Basically the longer I know the person, the more beautiful they get.” everything was relatable but this caught my attention! It’s the same with me. Looking forward to reading more of your posts. 🙂 <3, another introvert

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