Confrontation Phobia

Confrontation, everyone has a different way of dealing with it. My way? Avoid it at all costs. There is honestly nothing that stresses me out more than confrontation. I am the type of person that would rather take a whole load of nonsense from someone than actually confront them about it. Some people call me weak, some call me patient but the reality is, I physically cannot confront people, I CAN’T DO IT! My palms get sweaty, my heart races like mad and speech almost becomes foreign to me. The minute I sense confrontation coming, I freeze.

It is not a pleasant feeling so I suppose it makes sense that I try to avoid it, but my fear has landed me into so much trouble! I struggle to fight for my rights and let people walk all over me because even though that is not fun, to me, it is better than confrontation. This might sound bizarre to you, it sure does to me! How has this way of life made sense to me for so long? I honestly do not understand. I have been taken advantage of to extreme lengths and frankly, I think I have had enough.

I do not want to fear confrontation anymore. It is not easy when this is all I have known for so long. I have decided to start a new ‘fearless’ journey, so far I have had two confrontations; one over text and one where I was barely making eye contact, but it is progress! I hope one day to get to the point where I can immediately detect when someone is taking advantage of me and know how to get out of it. Wish me luck! 🙂

How do you deal with confrontation? Do you have a friend that thinks like me? Do you have any tips for me on my new journey? I would love to hear from you! Xx

 

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2 comments

  1. maybewild · February 28

    Although I do not fear confrontation, I have an extremely high tolerance level for bullshit, especially for new people in my life. So I relate highly to letting people walk all over me and me not really saying a thing. But I do have a little advice for you, some that has definitely helped me in many situations:
    Not every problem that arises has to be solved with confrontation…. it could be solved with a simple conversation. One that very lightly brings up the topic, maybe even makes a joke about it, but in a way that still discusses the problem at hand and how it may be wrong or bother you. Confrontation to me is one where it’s discussed wildly and emotionally, but it really doesn’t have to be that way at all. Downplaying is your friend, girl. Downplay so hard that you actually believe it yourself, but not enough to where there isn’t attention brought to the problem. There is a happy medium and one you can learn from practice.
    And always remember: other people are not paying as much attention to how you are acting than you are yourself. What you may notice often misses their attention.

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  2. Nikki · March 2

    Firstly, you are glorious. Second, there is no one on this earth who can do you better than you. When I have to deal with people who are negative or toxic, I imagine there’s a mirror infront of me, facing them. So everything they say reflects back onto them and I don’t have to feel it. Well done on deciding to live a more fearless life! x

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